- Generous. Send a note even if you have already thanked the giver in another way.
- Specific. Mention the gift and thank them for the thought behind it.
- Prompt. Send the note ASAP, but don’t let lateness (or guilt) keep you from writing at all.
- Succinct. Keep it short by focusing only on the gift. Write about other topics in another note.
- Personal. Write it by hand. No form letters or print outs…(and preferably), no greeting cards.
Some Do s and Don’t s…
Tailor your note to the gift. Mention it, or the person will think you forgot what they gave you. Do say:
- How did you guess that I wanted (the gift).
- I was just wishing for (the gift).
- I am enjoying, using, wearing, listening to, eating, reading (the gift). We are having fun using (the gift whatever it is).
- I am so pleased, grateful and touched.
- We enjoyed the evening, dinner, time with the family.
- You shouldn’t have.
- I’m exchanging it.
- It was the greatest thing I ever received (Exaggeration = insincerity.)—————————————————–
The Art of the Handwritten Note, A Guide to Reclaiming Civilized Communication, Margaret Shepherd, Broadway Books, 2002